long distance relationships

[outro_lugar]

i seem to complicate things in life and get myself into this situation all the time.

what do you guys think about long distance relationships?

[grandsp5]

well, i am on the verge of having one...although its only an hour away, i don't have a car and I will be in college at the same time. I'm thinking its probably a bad idea and can only lead to trouble. I guess if you are really fond of her/him (cant tell by your name) it might be worth it. It's something you have to work out, whether you want to be bound to someone who you won't see very often.

[fester8542]

Nope.

Not for me. Maybe long distance dating. But I cant handle not being able to see someone whenever I want.

[telekinesis]

What fester said, long distance relationships are not for me.

[pinx]

they don't work. period.

[BadMagick]

I had a girlfriend in college when I was in my senior year of high school, and that ended quickly. I think long distance relationships are terrible. They really play hard on your emotions, and it permeates through every fabric of your life.

You cant do anything without thinking what the other person is doing while you're away from each other. You start wondering about bad stuff (sometimes it's true, other times false), and then you start to fight over it, and then it's over completely.

Even if you spend lots of time on the phone or IM talking to each other, you're still missing out on a large part of your life, I think anyway

[Maxtr0sity]

Unless you are planning to get back together, from what I've seen and heard, they won't work out.

[RenaissanceGirl]

Define "long distance."

My boyfriend and I are an hour and half to two hours apart. We take turns driving up and down to see each other and we see eachother every weekend. If this is considered long distance... it seems to be working out for me.

I like to date men that are a little far away... maybe because I just like my space sometimes. But I don't think I can date someone in a different state or a drive that's more than a couple hours.

[mlk]

last time it happened, i got dumped. Im not gonna do it again =)

[=VALOR=]

Thats a tough one.

Ive had 2 long distance relationships.

The first one, well, she was a flight attendant aboard CONDOR, and that didnt work. (I screwed it up).

The second one, she was in Poland (me in Germany). It was a very passionate relationship, but it ended in DISASTER.

Sometimes it seems that its worth the hassle when you think you have met your other half. Believe me, i REALLY tried to make it work (visits, money, time, skipping college, not cheating, you name it).

I dont think long distance relationships are actually connected with "distance". They depend on the maturity and age of the couple. You can forget trying to have a LDR between the ages of 18 - 24. In my opinion, everyone is just too horny and immature to stick to it (me included).

=VALOR=

[Cello]

Pinx, as ever, summed it up perfectly.

Learned from experience; non-starter. Sorry.

[Jasninder]

I think long term relationships are not good if u dont know the person in real , yea i m talking online relationships.

[RenaissanceGirl]

Originally posted by Jasninder
I think long term relationships are not good if u dont know the person in real , yea i m talking online relationships.

Excellent point Jasnider! I didn't even think about that.

[comicGeek]

:(

I believe there is always hope! Even though the odds seem insurmountable!

[T-O]

Originally posted by outro_lugar
i seem to complicate things in life and get myself into this situation all the time.

what do you guys think about long distance relationships?

never work out.
relations need allot of time.
And especially girls they need allot of atention. :bandit:

[Jasninder]

Originally posted by RenaissanceGirl
Excellent point Jasnider! I didn't even think about that.

Thanx =)


Originally posted by T-O
never work out.
relations need allot of time.
And especially girls they need allot of atention. :bandit:

Thats a great point T-O, but i ges everything works out when u know and understand eachothers limitations, wich are usually due to distance.I think again if u kno a person in real, only then u can achieve this kind of understanding.

Now who will u trust? a person u have never met or the person whoz bin livin wid u for a while or u know him her personally and now he/she is away...

Most of the long distance relationships r not successful becoz of lack of belief and trust.

it's hard even if u talk about couple who knows eachother in real life and yea guys do need attention, hey i do ;)

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[Ranoka]

Well I was in a long distance relationship until recently...

We started off by living nearby and could see eachother, but she went to uni on the other side of the country. It seemed to be working at Easter, and everything seemed fine. But when she came back at summer she was really cold towards me and didn't want to see me... It didn't take her long to dump me (after going out for 1 1/2 years). Basically she's having a great time at uni, and during the summer came home, but she hasn't seen her home friends much, her parents much and instead been seeing her uni friends. I guess because i'm not part of her new life, she let me go. I was working at our relationship because I thought we had something together...

Now I wish we had broken up before she went to uni, it has been tough on my emotions. My advice is, dont get into a long distance relationship, it wont work, I thought we could make it work, but it didn't.

Its probably best to be friends, and then if you are living in the same area again in the future you could re-***** the situation.

[Jasninder]

Originally posted by Ranoka
Its probably best to be friends, and then if you are living in the same area again in the future you could re-***** the situation.

True my friend, but u never kno wat future have in store for u..

[Ranoka]

I was talking rhetorically, besides I dont want to go out with her again. Now I'm outside of the relationship I realise how much she was messing me about, and shouldn't have put up with it.

I hope there is someone better for me. I'm young, and not too worried about being alone or anything. Most of my friends are single, and some of them haven't even had a partner... but I'm glad I've had a couple of long term (ish) relationships because i've learnt a lot from them.

[rvanet]

long distant relationship is not my choice. i have also tried it.

[Daedelus]

doesn't work overall from my experience either... especially the younger you are. overall, the whole point of a relationship is to BE WITH somebody. it's a nice thought, but i just don't think it works...

[Jasninder]

It works if both(guy n gal) want it to work.

[gr8jay]

Jas has the point there, if u want it u can do it. Believe me...yes u need a lot of patience, I mean a whole lot!!! Well, I need to experience it myself...I know it juz might work for me...;)(Hopefully)May not be for all...it works if u r right for each other. The worst part is, u never know who is the right one for u, even if u stay right next to each other. If we did, well a whole lot of those lawyers would be jobless now...they would loose a lot of divorce cases ifeverything went fine with every one.

[Jasninder]

Greatest distance according to me is altho i heard it somewhere :P Sitting next to eachother but thinking and feeling way apart or a great distance... can't remember it, sorry but something like this... kno u got the point =) & jay i m talkin about ppl who kno eachother, dont go on lookin @ wild wild web for a girl of ur dream.
Loads of pervs live there, hu knoz u mite endup loving some fat joe or bob, it's all fake :P

[TOOL]

Not unless they have webcams ;) :love: :P

[Jasninder]

Tool there has bin few cases in India, they r lil funny but sad too.
A guy was blackmailed and there are many gangs operating online, lookin for ppl who wants online relationship.Possibilities are endless buddy, I m talkin about webcam wid voice chat.They hired a girlwhore

I ll tell u someother time, i g2g now:P

[gr8jay]

ur right jas, they say, Internet is the right place to get the wrong things ;)

[TOOL]

Well I've been talking to this girl since January and we haven't got the microphone to work yet but I'm trying to fix it. I've seen and chatted with pretty much her whole family. It's funny how you get to know these "strangers" so well. They're like a new best friend and I may regret this but I really trust her. :blush:

I'm in Australia and she's in New Zealand... could be worse but this isn't an actual boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

[gr8jay]

Hey, if ur using MSN and u wanna talk to her, i d say u use yahoo man...I have suggested port 6901...I dont know much about this one, but tats the port for voice communication. If u have ne zone alrm or ne thing working well u should bypass it for MSN

[outro_lugar]

thank you - thats what i have been thinking all along (i would like to think that this is the one to keep and it will last, but..) - i don't think it works . I have tried it three times domestic and international but here i am one more time considering the one thing i said wouldnt work. and he makes me look like I am the bad person for seeing things this way -cause he is soo excited about it and believes that it will work out (oh this is another international one by the way) I think we'll just have to see.
thanks.

[Jasninder]

I am glad that we were able to help you =)

[rere420]

outro,

it totally depends on how bad you obth want to be together. If oyu really both do then it will be hard but probably work..I get the feeling that it may not work "for good" even if it wasnt long distance if you have questionable feelings then it proabbly wont work at home or far away....but usually long distance doesnt cut it for mnost relationships. JMO