How to get over your ex in 1 day?

[Tiina]

I broke up with my bf about 4 months ago and it´s still haunting me. Before i understod I loved him i made his life crap as hell,
and we broke up, i left him, then about 4 months later we got back togheter i was good to him like and angel everything a man would like his gf to be i was to him, gave him everything i could, but the skelletons were still haunting him, so it was difficult to over come the bad years we had. So finally we broke up for the last time again.

Now I think you get the picture what i am feeling, so its back to all the lonely cold nights without my honey.

A good friend told me the world is fool of honeys who would like to date me, but as i said I just wish they weren´t too shy, to ask me..

So some on and list ways how to get over your ex in 1 day!:sigh:


::regards: Lonely in seattle:blush:











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[Jasninder]

hey i m also not experienced on that topic as i have same gf for 18 yrs now, (BTW, i m just 25) but yea i can suggest a few things lik... go out meet other guys, join a club or something, do something unromantic, go on a adventure trip.

[Jasninder]

but, do u really wana get over him? i mean, do u still love him or it's just sadness and i dnt want to sound personal...but the reason u broke off can be the deciding factor, if it's bad.. like he backstabbed u or something like that, then u r better off, just think about and justify ur decision.

I kno one thing U CAN'T FORGET A PERSON, UNTIL AND UNLESS U FORGIVE HIM think about it.Hope it helps

[Tiina]

get over him for good!!:stunned: Its hard you know when you fall in love for the first time and you do something wrong and its just like that over...and now when you´can be the ideal gf its over forever.Just waiting for mr.right to come...

[Jasninder]

i have just edited my post...
First love is hardest to get over wid and who can kno it better then me :P, i dont c myself surviving one day widout my girl, this is wat time do to u, it makes u stronger togather, but when u r alone u r really weak.
hey i m kinda lost here.. u broke off wid him or he said those hurtful words :(

[claudio]

I think ive already told you my opinion about this but here we go again... :)
Sometimes we dont know how much we like someone until he/she is gone... and thats something that scares me a lot. Guess we need to learn with our own mistakes....
A good friend told me the world is fool of honeys who would like to date me, but as i said I just wish they weren´t too shy, to ask me..Why wait for them to ask you when you can go ask them? For the time ive met you, i can already tell that you are a very interesting girl :love: and i would love to meet you in person, so im sure theres loads of ppl just waiting for you...
Go out, meet new ppl, hang with your friends... sometimes mr right is closer than you imagine..... =)
good luck tina, if you need me, call me... errrr I mean PM me on msn :smirk:
Cya later!
claudio :love:

[ribcage]

One truth is that when you realize a person is treating you badly throughout your realationship, its a lack of respect on that persons part. No matter how many times you break up and get back together at some point you will come back to
the old rhythym of what one person can get away with and what the other is willing to take or overlook.
And the trying to be an angel role was probably so different than your previous
role in the relationship that it was a constant reminder of whatever you did before.

[Jasninder]

true, best of luck DaisyDee and i repeat if u really wana getover someone u need to forgive him/her only then u can forget.Great advice claudio =) , actually tht's wat i said up there.

[senocular]

Its hard, you cant help that. But you do need this because this wont be the only time this happens (most likely). When you're young and you first fall in love everything is amplified and exaggerated making it a lot harder to cope with. But what you're going through now will help you in the future and will ultimately help you understand yourself better. And you shouldn't get involved with anyone completely seriously (like in marriage not that thats an issue here) until you can fully not only understand the other person, but also your self. Things like this will happen to you more and more and it will help you understand yourself better. And this doesnt mean you are a bad person or a bad girlfriend. It just shows you what people out there you can connect with and what given such relationships can be brought out from within yourself. Being the first relationship of such a magnitude for you, much of that comes and slaps you in the face. All these wonderful feelings coming over you making the world such a better place - having a person to care about and having them care about you - ridding yourself of your previous loneliness... its big, exciting and enjoyable. But like any drug, the high goes away and you're left with reality. Reality has shown you that that relationship cant work for you both, and thats fine. You just need to learn from that experience and pick yourself up off the floor so you can move on and once again appreciate life, and yourself; not for what you have been blinded with with the presence of a first love (which, lke I said is always very powerful), but for what it truely means to you and only you on your own personal level. Then you will be on a better path of eventually finding that right person who best fits the job for being your real love - the love that matches your real you. And you can only find that person when you know yourself. What has happened here is just the first step in that process....


flasherjaz, on the other hand, is an anomoly and contradicts all that I said :crazy: but best wishes him and the gf there because sometimes you get lucky and with two people having grown up and experienced so much together, things just fall in place like that.

[Jasninder]

exactly man, we were best frnds all our lifes, same school, same class, we used to sit togather, we being we only and realization came a lil late,but if u love to be around someone as a best frnd wich we did and then moved on and decided and most of al realized it, it was an amazing, fulfilling feeling, like u dont need anyone else, even now sitting 1000 miles away it's strong and it only got stronger and stronger only, u r very right about the drug addiction thing too, in my case after 18 yrs wid her and i can say the same for her, we work as oxygen for eachother, a day widout oxygen..dont even wana think about it:(

[Kitiara]

Well, been there a couple of times, so you have my sympathies, girl. :)

First boyfriend I ever had I went out with for 5 years, and I was the one who split with him as it dawned on me one day that he annoyed the hell out of me simply by breathing. :sure: So that wasn't too difficult to get over...

My second on the other hand was another story. Went out with him for a year before he went all weird and silent and I found out he'd been seeing another girl at work and went off with her. Needless to say, I was head over heels for this guy anyway, we'd known each other for absolutely ages, and I was completely besotted. So getting over him was... difficult. Even now, I'm still a sucker for when he calls me.

But I digress.

I tried several things to get over him, but the best thing was just to hang out with my friends, who made me feel human again. :) I did go out a bit more than usual and might have picked up a guy or two in clubs just to reassure myself that I still could, but it was the lads that made me feel better. :)

My male friends have such a great attitude towards this kind of thing, and they made an effort to cheer me up and keep my mind occupied. :)

[thoriphes]

Perhaps all you need is a little vacation from your relationship. In one, you are bound to another person. Sometimes this can get old or redundant, even boring. You have to live life freely, go out and experience different things. Being attached to a person may be preventing you from doing this. You should be able to feel that you are not obligated to anything or anyone but yourself, only then would you be able to do everything.

I was talking to a friend of mine last night whose boyfriend is in NY; she was getting bored with waiting for him and asked to come over. As much as I wanted it, I also didn't want it. What was the point of me telling that? Being in a relationship will take away some privileges that would otherwise be ok outside of a relationship. You miss out on some things. When you're seeing a guy, doesn't it all of a sudden seem wrong to be able to talk to other people? Visit old friends of the opposite sex? Be gone for a long period of time?

Maybe you need some time to be with yourself before you can pursue a relationship. Don't stress over not being able to see the guy. Feel released, free. Like your friend said, there's a world of "honeys" (:sure:) out there. He's not the only guy in this world, don't make him the only one in yours.

[pinx]

Originally posted by thoriphes
When you're seeing a guy, doesn't it all of a sudden seem wrong to be able to talk to other people? Visit old friends of the opposite sex? Be gone for a long period of time?



To date, and I have been with the same guy for four years and 7 months, I have never felt it was wrong to talk to other people, visit my guy friends, or be gone for a longer period of time. If there is real trust in the relationship, those things are never a problem.

[thoriphes]

I can't trust anybody anymore.

:bandit:

[pinx]

well that's really sad.

[Kitiara]

I think 99% of my friends are men. At the BBQ on Friday, the only girl in attendance was me.

Apart from one (keeper for Maidstone Utd FC I'm ashamed to say), none of my boyfriends have ever had a problem with this. :)

Now I think about it, this could be because all my long term boyfriends have all come from that same group of friends... :blush:

But having male friends means that I understand men's moods and that better, so (hopefully) I don't wind up a boyfriend too much. :)

[TheOrangeOne]

wanna get over someone really quick? Have a one-night stand with someone! (That doesn't necisarrily mean you sleep with someone)
Yes its shameless, but do you really care that much? Psycologically, its the best thing you can do. Think about it;
When you split with someone, you natuarally feel lonely and a little unloved.

A one night stand solves this, you wont feel as lonely, you will feel a bit more loved (thus improving your self confidence) and you can be a better and stronger person for it afterwards because it shows you can move on.

With your new-found confidence and independance, you stand a better chance of meeting someone else who can make you just as happy, maybe even more so.

[thoriphes]

Kit's a tomboy :!:

[pinx]

Originally posted by Kitiara
I think 99% of my friends are men. At the BBQ on Friday, the only girl in attendance was me.

Apart from one (keeper for Maidstone Utd FC I'm ashamed to say), none of my boyfriends have ever had a problem with this. :)

Now I think about it, this could be because all my long term boyfriends have all come from that same group of friends... :blush:

But having male friends means that I understand men's moods and that better, so (hopefully) I don't wind up a boyfriend too much. :)


same here. i don't really get along with too many chicks. i have a best friend who is a girl and she is really the only girl, aside from my sister, that I hang out with.

[senocular]

Originally posted by thoriphes
I can't trust anybody anymore.

You can trust ME!!....



well, on second thought, maybe you shouldn't.


still, I :love: you!
yup, thats right! I :love: http://userpages.umbc.edu/~tmccau1/flash/kirupa/kb.jpg

[thoriphes]

image stealer :bad:

I :love: me (http://userpages.umbc.edu/~tmccau1/flash/kirupa/kb.jpg) too.

[Digitalosophy]

i found the best way to get over someone is to meet someone 10 times better then them, although that coud be a bit tricky.


good luck
Digita'L

[Kitiara]

Originally posted by thoriphes
Kit's a tomboy :!: Yeah, well. :beam:

I guess it comes from hanging round mostly men. I just find them so much easier to get on with...

I've just had the entire floor come over to my desk and sing Happy Birthday to me and give me cards and presents. :blush: They've got me this fantastic football hologram card, it's the dogs. :)

I'm bringing a camera in tomorrow to take pictures of my decorated desk. They've covered it in balloons (some of which are shaped like bunnies) and banners and everything... :)

[Soul]

Originally posted by Kitiara
I think 99% of my friends are men. At the BBQ on Friday, the only girl in attendance was me.Arghh! One girl? Sounds painful! Sausagefest? :P

- Soul :s:

[Kitiara]

Lemme think...

James, Keith, Damo, Trig, Lacey, Bailey, Jesus, Terry and me. Yup, that was it. A couple of the lads have got girlfriends, but none of them turned up. :P

The only girl that I know who I would count as a friend would be Kelly, and she's up in Guildford...

[Soul]

lol @ Jesus

[Kitiara]

His real name is Matt, but he really does look like Jesus. :sure:

So that's what we call him. :)

[Soul]

Oh dear :sure:

A party with one girl and all those guys doesn't sound like my kind of party :sure:

- Soul :s:

[Kitiara]

It was a fantastic party. :) All my bestest friends were there, what more could a girl ask for? :)

Went from a BBQ to a game-off and everyone was drunk except the designated driver and he was high on sugar. :P

[Soul]

Originally posted by Kitiara
It was a fantastic party. :) All my bestest friends were there, what more could a girl ask for? :)More girls

[Kitiara]

Nah, girls wouldn't have enjoyed it. :) I don't know a single girl who would willingly spend a few hours playing FIFA, Streetfighter and Unreal with a bunch of lads.

Except me. And I don't count as I was there. :)

[Soul]

Girls are not boring :bad:

[Kitiara]

Alright, we're not boring (see edit :) ) but the kind of thing most girls talk about bores me. And the sort of stuff I talk about bores most girls. :)

[Soul]

:love:Girls:love:

[pinx]

I bore most girls when i start talking about marketing/advertising strategy.

[Kitiara]

I do the same when I talk about football or computers. But my male friends join in on that kind of discussion. :)

So getting back on topic, I recommend hanging around with your mates and having a laugh, if you really want to get over this guy. :)

[thoriphes]

Originally posted by Soul
Oh dear :sure:

A party with one girl and all those guys doesn't sound like my kind of party :sure:

- Soul :s: sure it does ;)

[pom]

To get back to the subject, did anybody read "The Joke" (direct translation from the French: "La plaisanterie") by Milan Kundera? I've only just started it, but it looks like it's the theme of the book, so...

[rere420]

i dont think there is a way to get over someone in one day...would you really want to....down the road you will still have to realize your feelings...you cant move on to the future with out letting go of your pass...but it doesnt mean you have to forget about it.

[Tiina]

Now how did we end up talking about tomboys?hmm...lol:trout:
My best friend is a guy also his name is Eljas, and no i don´t like playing fifa, but loooov war games, love delta force and james bond nightfire in p2, and i don´t have any girfriends:*(
Besides my cousins...i don´t understand the humor some girls have,I get a long with my bestfriend Eljas better then girls. Girls don´t like me:*( Girls hate me lol naah they don´t like me because of my boyfriends...but maybe there are girls that would like me, but don´t have the courage to ask me or something-..
Maybe i look tooooo scaryyyyy:*( :*( :thumb: :thumb:


But I have to give a warm thank you to all of you kirupians for the good advices it means a lot to me! I will go now and burn all the pictures of my ex and his gifts...maybe i should guve them away...
but what will i do to his bunny+cage ect???:b:



:regards: Scary girl, bunnygirl

[thoriphes]

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[Tiina]

nobody wants his bunny!!!His name is Pepito and he is a sex-maniac, not joking!!He has a thing for feet, and my toys.
Oh God!!His name should be Duracel bunny

[thoriphes]

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[rere420]

find it another bunny......wait until it has like 30 babies and then give it back to him.....if you dont mind me asking daisy what happened the first time you broke up?

[Tiina]

I got so depressed that you don´t even want to know what happend after that!!It was crazy and crazy!But now its not that crazy any more i just want to forget him.He is always everyday in my mind too much:whistle:

[rere420]

hang in there....i went through this 5 months ago after almost four years w/someone, we even lived together and had a house and such but, after a while it gets easier and easier to deal wtih being apart. You will either find someone new and your feelings for him will start to go away or you guys may become friends or something and you will can have a "friendship". I dont know the situation but you actually can be friends with an ex. I talked to my ex, everyday and we evens till hang out as friends all the time. It is pretty cool.

[fester8542]

hmmmm

[rere420]

whats the hmmm...for

[Tiina]

That´s what i want to know also:)

[senocular]

I would assume it denotes deliberation

[fester8542]

yup

[tisse]

How to get over it in one day?

Sorry, not possible. You can try and get to terms with the situation, but really getting over it, mmm, when it really meant something, that relationship, you never really 'get over it' imho.

What can happen is that you find something better so that previous thing doesn't matter that much anymore, but really getting over it, don't try that.

My suggestion would be, look ahead instead of back. Towards a future that is better. Set some goals for yourself and go after them. Get some kind of new drive, new motivation back into your life. That should really help to get your mind off of your recent history, yep, not past, but history.

And always remember, the only second chance one gets is to make the same mistake twice. (don't know what relevance that has, but just felt like typing that :) )

Good luck, and from what I can read, you have lots of friends willing to help you, that should tell you something ;)

kind regards
Tisse

[Ranoka]

Originally posted by Kitiara

The only girl that I know who I would count as a friend would be Kelly, and she's up in Guildford...

Kit, I live in Guildford! :)

I'm going through some relationship difficulties at the moment. It looks like my relationship of 1 1/2 years is about to end. I think the hardest thing about a long distance relationship is spending time with new people, experiencing new things and changing and developing as a person, makes it hard when you see eachother after a couple of months...
My girlfriend has been cold and shirty towards me, and not wanting to spend much time with me. The hardest thing has been that she's seeing other people on our 1 1/2 year anniversary and i've been trying to organise something for ages :(

I'm meeting up with her to talk things through, so next time I post I might be single again.

[fester8542]

That sux bro,
She doesnt sound like one to chase after man. Girls are straight up evil dude.


:thumb:

go get yourself a new piece.

[Tiina]

Sounds bad:(
I know the feeling,


regards: Sleeping in seattle:evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: hahahaaa:love:

[Kitiara]

Yeah, I guess we've all been there in one way or another... :sure:

[pinx]

i haven't. haha

[fester8542]

Originally posted by thoriphes
I can't trust anybody anymore.

:bandit:


Harsh man. :sure:

[Kitiara]

Originally posted by pinx
i haven't. haha Yet. :sure:

[j0se]

hey peeps,

i've not been here in a long time, but i was just checking out a webpage and i came across a link called 'how to get over you ex' in kirupa!

this is bizarre because i practically lived in this forum some years ago, when i was learning flash.

since then, i wrote a book called 'how to get over your ex' (yeah, weird)

Tiina, it sounds like after many months you're still suffering (it was the same for me)

at the risk of coming across like i'm promoting my book (i've got a good position in google, so i'm genuinely not sneaking a link in here!)

there is a 6000 word sample of my book for free on my site, and if i rememebr well that includes a chapter on nlp, which i think may help :)

http://www.get-over-your-ex.com

the book was written from my own perspective, but for some reason it has as many female readers as male readers, so i guess it's helping anybody/everybody.

ps if the links offends anybody (if it seems like cheecky marketing) i will remove it asap.

if not, it's my little bit back to the kirupa community :)
jose (-:

[danulf]

I think she's over him by now :|

[j0se]

I think she's over him by now :|

well, that's a good thing then! :)

[DanontheMoon]

http://www.scubb.com/images/prd_detailed/PC%20half%20life%202%20GOTY%20Ed._ss1.jpg

Ahhhhh, Necro thread!~ Welcome back and such.

[Jasninder]

wow who anchored this one up again lol, checked my posts on first page...been 4 yrs :lol:

[PsychE]

I'm really sorry 'bout that girl... It's so hard to move on yet but time will come that you'll meet someone right for you:)

[hl]

:lol: nice thread revival

[MTsoul]

Hey you are pretty hot.

[Digitalosophy]

^ lol indeed.

[BoonDock]

Edit: wow ... old thread

[Digitalosophy]

I still think the best way to get over someone is to f someone much hotter.

But hey I have so many issues I'm the last person any of you guys should be taking advice from (in random anyway :lol:).

[DanontheMoon]

:smirk: If you don't mind me rephrasing that, the best way to get over an old girlfriend is to get under a new one! :p:

[Digitalosophy]

^ Well said :thumb:

[DDD]

or behind one

[Phenex]

Or like Jebus says, over one! :lol:

Man on a mission! :P

[RabBell]

wait, wait...are you saying you got the idea for your book from this site?

[thats all folks]

How to get over it in one day?

Cheap beer & p@rn mags!!! Beer never nags and p@rn mags never say no!!!

[bobbyanderson]

Best way to get over someone is get under someone else :)

Just kidding, just spend more time with your friends, especially the time that would have normally been between you two, it means that you are spending less time alone and also having a good time. it will still take a while but you'll come to realise that life isn't so bad and while you still miss him you have people around you that make you feel happy.

[grimdeath]

Talk about resurrecting posts this is from 2003 WTF is wrong with you guys :lol:

I was like Holy frick Kitiara is back then reality hit

D@mn n00bs :fight: :lol:

[garyzero]

ah, didn't fall for this one.

[DanontheMoon]

@Bobby - read page 5! :lol: Beat ya to that one.