Am i a bad person?

[vts31]

My mom is in the hospital. she lost the baby she was carying. She was 4 months pregnant. I feel bad for her but other than that i have no emotions either way. Is this normal?

[fez]

i know what you mean, when my grandma died i was upset but when i saw everybody crying i just couldnt, i wasnt SAD as such...its a weird feeling

[Soul]

Death does mysterious things to people. you're not a bad person :(

- Soul :s:

[thoriphes]

yeah, i know how you feel, i was supposed to have a brother...

sorry, for your loss.

[Alex]

sorry for your loss.


your not a bad person.

[fez]

humans are a weird animal.

[UNFLUX]

i'm not a psychologist but...

you probably don't feel bad because there was no direct
attachment. I don't think that makes you a bad person at all
Edwin. Your pyhche guarded you from it...THAT my friend is very
normal.

I'm very sorry to hear this happened nonetheless. :(

[senocular]

what unflux said

[!*@&]

when my grand father died, i felt it without me knowing. i was sad enough that i cried for along time. that even affected my exams. i got 50% in math and i dont know what in science and horroble marks but i still managed to get an 80. about your mom loosing the baby i am sorry. i would have felt the samething for the same reason that unflux mentioned. but come on dont you feel al little sad. if the samething happens to my mother now (cuz she is also pregenet and in the forth month) i would be really sad. not becuse i love the baby but cuz i really want a new baby.

[lostinbeta]

Originally posted by UNFLUX
i'm not a psychologist but...

you probably don't feel bad because there was no direct
attachment. I don't think that makes you a bad person at all
Edwin. Your pyhche guarded you from it...THAT my friend is very
normal.

I'm very sorry to hear this happened nonetheless. :(


Thats exactly what I think....

[andr.in]

no you're noooottt a bad person!
If you had known the baby for 5 years and hanged out wif him/her then you'd be much sadder! The thing is you just actually don't know what you've just lost! But you mom maybe made such plans to grow up the baby and now all her dreams were flushed away... sad thing....

[RelandR]

It has been said and agreed by many allready - you probably didn't know what to think not having a real connection yet ... some people pour it out thinking that they're supposed to - that would be abnormal in my opinion

BUT...you did feel something

I have had a few [allmost] similar situations recently where I didn't feel the way
I *thought I should have* and it bothered me too ... till I thought it through and realised that I 'felt' what I could handle at the time...

if that makes any sense - kind of an emotional thermostat keeping things at safe level (???)

...my condolences to you and your family