Parents

[Sammo]

Ack, where to start...

Well I just had yet another arguement with my parents, and I know it's all normal for a 15yr old, but I think things are just going too far. Today mum started an arguement because I said that I would rather go out to dinner with them than go to a youth group (which was the truth), me wouldnt beleive me and tried to force me to go, got me angry, so i said things, got her angry so she retaliated, you know how it all escalates.

Well this occasion involved the usual "I hate you you *****" etc, but then mum said how I have no friends and they dont like me because they dont see me, she then went on to say I don't see you, which got me thinking.

The next thing to pop up was psychiatry, mum stated how she was gonna hire a shrink and make me more nice (her words), is she trying to change me? I dunno, but the more I thought about the psychiatry, the more I actually liked it, she thinks she's in the right all the time, but she isn't, I admit I'm in the wrong and I often say things I don't mean to and get angry when I shouldn't, but I'm not always in the wrong and I'm sick of being told and convinced that.

I mean mum's not strickly lying when she says I have no friends, I have tried for the past 15 years of my life, and had been apart of (or attempted to be) with every group of kids in primary school and now secondary school, every birthday I'd bring home a different group of "friends", around when I was 14 I just got sick of it, gave up trying to make friends and became a computer junkie. I stayed at home at nights, I learnt to do things - like code for example - I learnt to ignore lonelyness and so on.

That was probably the best step in my life, no breaking of my heart (friends, not love), no moving from group to group trying to fit in until getting bullied into moving on by the next few months. But my parents have not appreciated this step, they don't know how my life is and I do beleive they are doing it for the best, but they don't beleive me when I try to tell them just how bad my life can be sometimes, this pisses me off. I mean thanks for helping and all but what's a relationship without trust?

And the one of two friends I'm left with, I barely ever see, I barely ever connect with, girlfriends have never been an option for me. But the few I do have, the few who have stuck by me, not even them do I feel confident to talk to, they'd laugh at my sensitivity, my likelyhood that I'd cry over this stops me from wanting to tell them. So we go back to the psychiatrist, maybe that's not such a bad idea, that is somebody I can talk to, that also know what they're talking about and really could help.

I dunno, mum accuses me of wallowing in my self pity, and after rereading this post, she may have a point. I dunno.

Sorry this post doesn't have any point to it, and it's more a blog entry than anything, but as my sites down ATM, thanks to the May 1st Reboot, I thought I should write this all down before the next day comes and I think it'll be better, but it won't.

[Kafeenejunkie]

Try actually talking to those friends about it. You never know, they might care ;)

[Voetsjoeba]

I recognize much of my situation in yours ... I went to a shrink too a few years ago, but that was because of the way I handled my brother. Anyway - I've been living pretty much alone lately - no girlfriend (a guy like me knows he shouldn't even bother; who doesn't win, doesn't dare, y'know ?), little true friends ... but that's no good. You gotta go out there, make friends, have fun. Don't give a d*mn about nothing, then they can't hurt you by taking it away.

I'm having arguments with my parents too, mainly over the way they try to control everything that goes on in, what is supposed to be, my life. It's pretty normal for people at your and mine age to have arguments with their parents.

[Mik3]

hey about the friends. I know making friends can seem like the hardest thing to do. But keep these two things in mind, first off you really can do whatever you want if you try hard enough and try the right way. Second off, we are only 15, our lives are just beginning. No friends is a very small issue since it's something we can fix. We can change, we are new, we are the youth. Not only is it not too late, but it's almost too early, our lives are just beginning. There are plenty of things you can do to improve your social health, the best thing to do is to put yourself in a lot of positions where you are around people you don't know. That is the only way you will fix your friend problem. Hope that helps, it helped me. :D

[ya3]

NO FRIENDS!!! HAHAHA ROFL!!!one1

lol, jk ;)
Join the club.

[paddy.]

...have an epoch-shatteringly nice time!!!LOL!

[ya3]

LOL!
Yay! Someone took notice of my footer :)
*bows*

[fester8542]

Posts like this just blow my mind.

Dude you are 15... when I was 15 nobody on this planet got me either. But to throw your hands in the air and say that I got no broad, no bro's and life is crap and is insane.

Disconnect for a few, dont strike up conversations regarding PHP with strangers and throw a few flowers at the girl your into....

The years you are living now man are seriously the best ones. Dont F-them up in your room playing online comp games dude.

I would strangle a puppy to go back to your time chief ;)

[RadioactveChimp]

yeah dude I second that fester. I am also 15, like 78% of this forum, and I lead a completely different life than most of you guys. I used to do a lot of crap on the computer, until one week when i decided to ducktape my laptop shut for a week. I did this because I wanted to see what would happen, and also I wanted to put off a paper :thumb:. But I then realized there was a whole world out there that I was really missing out on. I mean I would go out with friends every friday, but I mean personal things that I was missing. I caught up with some unfinished paintings and read like four books. Now I still go on the computer each day, but not nearly as much. But what really made me change my mind is this girl. This chick in my english class is just stunning. Not just "hot", but truely beautiful. I would never ask her out or anything, but it's just another reason to wake up in the morning. For a while I wasn't doing well in school just because my parents didn't really, and still don't care, what grades I get, as long as I "try." This is total bull****, I need incentive, a motive of some sort. So now, my motive is to impress this girl in my english class. It truely gives me a reason to do things.


did I just type all of that? Christ wagons.....

I like talking about teenage antics for some reason :lol:

[muffins]

Same here. They don't get this: some kids don't get along with or relate to anyone at school. So when they get home they go online and hang out with the kids who have the same interests, and where they have a wide variety of choices.

[minimalistik]

Do you have problems starting or not knowing what to talk about with your friends? I mean I don't believe there isn't something to talk about other than computers. But don't try to shut the world. Embrace it. Its easy talking to the computer because its dumb, find people who share the same interests with you. Friends are those that stick by you, not be a b*tch. Thats what those girlfriends are. Its good if you stick with a group of people you have most common things to share with. Your only 15, you still get way ahead of you.

[ya3]

i decided to ducktape my laptop shut for a week.
ROFL!!!
That's one way to do it...:hugegrin:

[abcdefg]

All I could say is all you guys will grow out of these problems.

I too had the same things going on when I was younger, but as time passed it all went away. Just dont burn any bridges this early in life.

And I know how strict Voet's parents are. (Remember the monitor incident :lol:)

[Sammo]

Thanks guys :)

I am going to try and get out more, I'll keep trying to make some more friends, some that care in what I care about. But I like coding, and I'm not going to stop that because my parents don't like me doing it instead of being outside, call it 50:50 :)

[RadioactveChimp]

And I know how strict Voet's parents are. (Remember the monitor incident :lol:)

what monitor incident? lol

[Jako]

Yay! Someone took notice of my footer :)
*bows*I should get some recognition, as I'm the first one who started posting about his weird remarks...:P

[ya3]

I should get some recognition, as I'm the first one who started posting about his weird remarks...:P
lol... It's a cult-following!!!

[RabBell]

if you feel like talking to the shrink, then go...if after a few sessions you don't feel it's helping then don't go back...sounds like you're curious though :cool:

[Voetsjoeba]

what monitor incident? lol

You probably don't want to know. :lol:

[Sammo]

You probably don't want to know. :lol:
oh we do :)

[Voetsjoeba]

Well ... I basically got very angry at my parents and in my angriness I accidentally threw a bolt against my brand new pixel-prefect expensive LCD screen. Damage is luckily little (just a tiny scratch in the glass), but I felt like ****.

[Ectheo]

Well ... I basically got very angry at my parents and in my angriness I accidentally threw a bolt against my brand new pixel-prefect expensive LCD screen.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

Thats why you throw dogs or cats around! They can take a beating much better than a new monitor!!

j/k. Throw some balled up socks at your wall or something. I bought a punching bag just for situations like that. I don't anger easily, but if something pisses me off enough or irritates me enough, I go ape****. I wound up punching through a wall once, and that prompted me to go buy the punching bag. Now my walls feel much safer.

[[uber]]

man... i've all but severd my relationship with my mother... but i've kinda grown up too fast... all my friends are like 40, i'm 19 and no love life.. but thats ok... **** happens and we deal with it.. parents suck? oh well... shrug your shoulders and obey... when you move out... you don't ever have to talk to them again... thats how life is... you're young... you'll see the light... either that or you'll end up like one of those pseudo goths that i love beating up so much in highschool...

[RadioactveChimp]

whoa

[.Matt]

this sounds moderately familiar to me and my parents...

[grinch]

Posts like this just blow my mind.

Dude you are 15... when I was 15 nobody on this planet got me either. But to throw your hands in the air and say that I got no broad, no bro's and life is crap and is insane.

Disconnect for a few, dont strike up conversations regarding PHP with strangers and throw a few flowers at the girl your into....

The years you are living now man are seriously the best ones. Dont F-them up in your room playing online comp games dude.

I would strangle a puppy to go back to your time chief ;)

Haha Fes, what do I do all day?

Computers... Video games... But I will admit, I feel the same way with my parents, and the ****ing demons. But **** em. ;)

[Sammo]

yeah **** em :)

Voets: My bro threw a hot water bottle through a window and I've smashed my door, nothing like an LCD to wreak though :)

[onsitus]

wowwwwwww. You are getting me worried here. I'm a mother of 2 and already fighting with my 5 years old to keep him away from the Playstation and pc. I can't imagine what it wil be in 10 years time.
Being 15 is not easy (I have been there too) and neither is being a parent. It is hard work to relax when you've running around all day, thinking about the next bills to pay and trying to 'educate' ur kids as they r expected to be. Anything wrong with the kids and it will be the parents fault. Everything should be in the norm. That's what society is about. Crap.
For Sammo. Cut down on ur hours in front of the pc (u can still think about coding, write it down on a piece of paper, and tried it later), tried to explain what ur actualy doing with ur pc to ur mum if doesn't know about it (like u would do with a kid, nothing to tecnical, create something special for her - it sounds cheesy but always a winner), find something u like to do outside the pc which can get u out, no worry about friends (they do come and go and with the age some of them will stay) and even less about girls (it will happen if it has to, u cannot force it). If u fancy the idea of going to a shrink, do it and why not ask ur parents to join u? That could be fun.
Why not write to ur mother as u did here?
Ok I better stop or I may start sounding like ur mother.
Have fun Sammo and don't bite at ur mother, only trying to do what she thinks its best for u.

[grinch]

Whoa... A mother on the forums? How cool! :)

[.Matt]

dido

[onsitus]

I wish I was still 15 though.
:lol:

[Prancer]

onsitus, I would like to make a proposition for you.
You have a five year old yes?
What you need to do is hide the playstation, disconnect the internet from the computer, and put away the television for at least a week. If your five year old has any more game things/entertainment things, then put them away as well. Now I know it will be really tough to let go of the TV, but trust me, doing this will possibly be the BEST thing that you can do for your child. At the end of the week, I would strongly compel you to keep the TV, playstation, and other things away. I can not express how strongly I feel this would help you and your family out. I would also advise that Sammo, please do likewise. I am likewise a child of young age. But how beautiful is life, the outdoors, and your family. I compel all of you to do likewise.

Onsitus, at the end of the week, tell me how you feel.
Now, if you dont heed my advice, well, then there is not much that I can do.
The sunset of society, how does it look?

[[uber]]

You kids are too obsessed with the media these days... onsitus... your child is five and a ps2 addict? whatever happened to getting locked outside to play or reading? when i was your guys's age.. i wasn't this messed up... ok.. i was really freakin messed up in other ways... bu never with computers and games.. though i did love em...now that i'm older.. i'm glued to the pc all the time... but when i was 15... i had more things to worry about... but this is me and i wasn't a privilaged as you kids are now so i never had the chance to get spoiled....

[onsitus]

What you need to do is hide the playstation, disconnect the internet from the computer, and put away the television for at least a week.
Hiding the playstation is not bad idea and already has been done. Until my husband decides he wants to play and it is plugged back in. Disconnect the net wouldn't be a solution, more like binning the pc (u must be joking :lol:. The old bugger actualy put some food on the table). TV u can take it, we don't watch it that much.
To Uber. I wouldn't consider my kid as an addict but yes as a mother I do worry about it. This is why we set up some rules. Making them being respected is hard time.

[squishy]

Do not make him read the cat and the hat book give him some time on the ps2 with his dad and then read books with him I was read to and I read everything I can get my hands on and still find time to do school and ps2 along with the pc :hugegrin:

[squishy]

Ack, where to start...

Well I just had yet another arguement with my parents, and I know it's all normal for a 15yr old, but I think things are just going too far. Today mum started an arguement because I said that I would rather go out to dinner with them than go to a youth group (which was the truth), me wouldnt beleive me and tried to force me to go, got me angry, so i said things, got her angry so she retaliated, you know how it all escalates.

Well this occasion involved the usual "I hate you you *****" etc, but then mum said how I have no friends and they dont like me because they dont see me, she then went on to say I don't see you, which got me thinking.

The next thing to pop up was psychiatry, mum stated how she was gonna hire a shrink and make me more nice (her words), is she trying to change me? I dunno, but the more I thought about the psychiatry, the more I actually liked it, she thinks she's in the right all the time, but she isn't, I admit I'm in the wrong and I often say things I don't mean to and get angry when I shouldn't, but I'm not always in the wrong and I'm sick of being told and convinced that.

I mean mum's not strickly lying when she says I have no friends, I have tried for the past 15 years of my life, and had been apart of (or attempted to be) with every group of kids in primary school and now secondary school, every birthday I'd bring home a different group of "friends", around when I was 14 I just got sick of it, gave up trying to make friends and became a computer junkie. I stayed at home at nights, I learnt to do things - like code for example - I learnt to ignore lonelyness and so on.

That was probably the best step in my life, no breaking of my heart (friends, not love), no moving from group to group trying to fit in until getting bullied into moving on by the next few months. But my parents have not appreciated this step, they don't know how my life is and I do beleive they are doing it for the best, but they don't beleive me when I try to tell them just how bad my life can be sometimes, this pisses me off. I mean thanks for helping and all but what's a relationship without trust?

And the one of two friends I'm left with, I barely ever see, I barely ever connect with, girlfriends have never been an option for me. But the few I do have, the few who have stuck by me, not even them do I feel confident to talk to, they'd laugh at my sensitivity, my likelyhood that I'd cry over this stops me from wanting to tell them. So we go back to the psychiatrist, maybe that's not such a bad idea, that is somebody I can talk to, that also know what they're talking about and really could help.

I dunno, mum accuses me of wallowing in my self pity, and after rereading this post, she may have a point. I dunno.

Sorry this post doesn't have any point to it, and it's more a blog entry than anything, but as my sites down ATM, thanks to the May 1st Reboot, I thought I should write this all down before the next day comes and I think it'll be better, but it won't.

I don't know if you have scouts in UK but if u do I would join i did and that was the best thing i ever did

[squishy]

Hiding the playstation is not bad idea and already has been done. Until my husband decides he wants to play and it is plugged back in. Disconnect the net wouldn't be a solution, more like binning the pc (u must be joking :lol:. The old bugger actualy put some food on the table). TV u can take it, we don't watch it that much.
To Uber. I wouldn't consider my kid as an addict but yes as a mother I do worry about it. This is why we set up some rules. Making them being respected is hard time.
Oh and this my sound crazy but are there any kids who play pokemon near you?

[minimalistik]

What a wake up call - when i was 5 PS2 wasnt even invented and now.... :stunned:

[Seb Hughes]

Yea i dont really have any friends so i just go on the pc day and night. well i do hang around with some people but i dont consider them as a friend, so i am friendless, that is why i am on the pc the minute i get back from school tilli have to go to bed :hugegrin: BTW: i am 14 turning 15 on saturday

[onsitus]

Oh and this my sound crazy but are there any kids who play pokemon near you?
:lol: As I am writing now I have my foot on 4 Pokemon's trading cards. Which one do u fancy, Kantaman? Bulbasaur, Grimer, Magnemite or Lickitung?

[squishy]

lickitung, lol well when I was 7 I played pokemon nad had a blast with it and now all my little brothers play the game and sometimes I feel the need to kill someone in a card game ask one of them if they want to play me so i can beat them... good days but can your son play the game or dose he collect them?

[lunatic]

What a wake up call - when i was 5 PS2 wasnt even invented and now.... :stunned:

lol and I had to wait until I was about NINE to play on my friend's Commodore 64. :lol:

[RelandR]

we had pinball and black and white tv with about 7 channels ...
.. needless to say, a lot more time was spent outside

[RabBell]

oh man the Commodore 64 kicked a$s...until the Amiga was released :thumb:

[jarviscares]

Sammo - the biggest mistake you can make is being somebody you're not to try to get friends... the best advice i can give is to be yourself, and to be a friend to everyone you meet... don't worry if they shrug you off or don't be your friend back... but if you truely act like a friend to everyone you meet true friends will find you... you can't get without giving.