[Rant] Females are heartless

[Digitalosophy]

I don't understand, maybe a female could explain this to me.

How is this possible:
My x and I broke up about 2 months ago. We were together for a year and a half. I really did love her, but I did take her for granted. In any event I was very good to her, and she was to me as well.

Anyway we went though a lot of crap which I won't even post here. Enough crap to really make us that much closer.

So like I said we broke up 2 months ago, and have not spoken since. I've been doing a lot of thinking, mostly about her. Note she's 28 and Im 23 which had a lot to do with the breakup. So I'm thinking now, you know what she's the best thing that's happened to me in a while. So I decide to email her and say hi or whatever.

She call's me like 5 minutes later, so I'm like sweet(thinking we may have been able to work things out).

Well my friends, she's been with the same guy since week 2 of our breakup :diss: I cannot believe this. I mean here I am, sulking about her for the past 2 months and she's doing her thang the whole time.

I would think after all the bs we've been through she wouldn't "recover' so fast. I mean I didn't, and I'm usually bad with stuff like this, I tend to say screw her find a new chick. Not this time, I'm not ready for another one of these relationships. And it really hurts to now she don't care, and that she doesn't even think about me. It's like we were never together.

She just told me this a few minutes ago, so I am definatly heated beyond the max. Jealous? Indeed I am. What pisses me off is this guy is 9 years older then me, so it makes me want to break his face even more. :hurt:

Anyway Digital will now move on and stop being a little b$tch but before I go.

Ladies:
How could you tell someone you love them, and 2 weeks after the break up be sleeping with some other dude?

[eilsoe]

well dude, some women truly have no heart.

One of my exes did her thang with 2 other guys WHILE she was with me. Another screwed me over and took of with one of my friends.


thank god my current girl isn't crazed like that...

[CanadianGuy]

Awe man that sounds rough.

At least you can move on now knowing that you're better off. The best way to get over a girl is to get on another.

[Digitalosophy]

wow eli that does suck.

CG: I hear ya man, but it's hard to hear ya know. I dunno, I'm glad I know so I can get over it but, wow.

[berkoWitZ]

:( sorry to hear that, I just began a relationship that appears to be very serious, its kinda scary not to know what will happen in the near future but its a risk we all must take I suppose...

[grimdeath]

Well buddy at least she broke up with you before she started dating someone else so be gratefull she made the decision to at least do that, sometimes people come into our lives for a reason to make you stronger, to help you out or simple to teach you a lesson, the important thing is that you learn from it and remember what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger.

Theres no real way to understand women or men i think the main problem is we're greedy and we always want more be it money, sex, love it doesnt matter were always looking for ways to be better or have more without worrying about the people we hurt along the way. Honestly give yourself some time to heal your wounds cherish the good times and forget the bad, hang out with friends or make some new ones. The main problem when someone has been in a pretty long relationship is you lose contact with your real friends, either get in touch with them or make some new ones, hang out keep yourself occupied in time you will heal and you will be ready for another relationship.

Sometimes we blame what happens to us on other people when its really our own fault for allowing the things to happen right under our noses because we are blinded by love. Theres nothing else i can tell you jsut that give it some time and you will get over it buddy, its part of growing up and becoming a better person.

good luck. ;) :thumb:

[mjULTRA]

a similiar thing happened with me and my high school sweet-heart.. fresh out of a two year relationship, she met a new guy and was quickly engaged to him. That relationship lasted about a year, and then ended. It turns out that she felt so rejected when we broke up that she was an easy catch, as most relationships that begin directly after another long-term relationship ends, are rebound realtionships, and rarely ever work. I would surmise that your x-woman is just sad and lonely without you, and is trying to fill the void with someone else. Both guys and girls do this, so dont take it personal.

Also, look on the bright side: atleast she was honest with you.. i had to hear about my X through the grapevine...

Anyway, keep this quote in mind: Success is the best revenge. :)

[fester8542]

Thats rough digital.

Wish I had some advice for you pal. I am the master of ending relationships then realizing it was a bad move too late.

Go out with your boys and hit a bar and wash it away for the night at least ...j/k

[lunatic]

all women are different digital. some don't know how to be alone. some women just need to be held. your ex may have jumped quickly into something that really doesn't mean anything to her and time will tell the truth on that.

I have girlfriends who literally jump from one relationship to the next. one of my closest friends lives on the other side of the country from me (we were housemates for a time before life took us separate ways). I talk to her about 2-3 times a month. I kid you not - every time I talk to her she flip flops Call 1: "I am with the guy I want to marry"; Call 2: "omg he is such a major ***HOLE! how could I be so stupid? I hate him! I hate men! Life sucks!" Call 3: "I met this really great guy - he is so different than all the others! I think he could be the one" Seriously, that's how it goes.

Myself, I've only been involved in about 5 of what I conisdered significant relationships. I needed minimum one year in between each one to get over it and learn to like myself again, and to be able to trust another person with my heart.

I got lucky the last time and have been with him 6 years. It's not all roses but we are committed to making it work. Remember that - it takes two.

Remember also - plenty of fish in the sea. Good luck, keep an open mind and an open heart and someday you'll make a very lucky girl very happy. :love:

[Digitalosophy]

Thanks people :thumb:

Luni, I totally hear ya with the year span thinggy. To me, I can't possibly, jump into to anything anytime soon. Too much stuff would be in my mind(about the x of course).

But again, now that I know she's all lovey dovey with some guy 9 year older then me, grr i still want to break his face, I should just try my best to forget about her.

Why is it that I'm so mad that her new "man" is so much older then me? Is it an ego thing?

Also she emailed me before saying how much I mean to her, and how she thinks about me everyday. I won't respond, as I wouldn't be able to get over the fact of this other guy even if we did start talking again. I bet she doesn't think about me when she's with him. pfft.

[lunatic]

I bet she doesn't think about me when she's with him. pfft.

Oh you would be surprised. I bet she compares you to him in a lot of things. Don't take that wrong - it's not a contest. But if you are with someone a long time and you get to know them well then its impossible NOT to think "hmmm, I bet so and so would have handled that differnetly" or whatever.

Trust me, you are still on her mind and will always occupy a special place in her heart. You have to know deep down that one day she's gonna stop and think and wonder what if I hadn't let that one go? And it may happen the day you run into her with a gal 10 years younger than her on your arm. ;)

[T-O]

forget about her man... Your way to young to get with a chick her age. **** that rimpled old tart.

[tobydog]

Hold on T-O...

with age you will find that a womans beauty does not truly blossom until she reaches her thirties, then she has experience under her belt as well.

aaahhhhhh women.


TD

[Digitalosophy]

**** that rimpled old tart.

tehe, dude she was blazin, come one now, I don't mess around :lol:

edit: exactly toby!!!

[lunatic]

dang straight!! :bad:

[tonygarcia]

Dude.. my dad would slap me if he knew i was sweating some chick especially if I wasn't married to her.

He would tell me "Man up boy, stop being a B*tch, go get some new honey".

My dad's the king of male chauvinist pigs ;)

[RenaissanceGirl]

Yikes...

digital: Your situation sounds almost exactly like mine. I dated a guy for 4 years. Not too long ago, I felt like something was seriously missing and broke it off. I was a wreck for a good 2 days. But I bounced back up and concentrated on other aspects of life that I missed in the past 4 years and decided to just have a good time.

So I guess I could provide some insight on what's going on at the other side of the fence.

The thing is, when it ended, I just knew that I had to pick myself up and get on with it. I had no hope of ever trying again and it seemed to me that he didn't care to try either. You just have to know this is just one stage of your life and it will get better. Now you can bypass all the drama and move on... or you can weep and wail and gnash your teeth for a year and then move on. I guess I chose the former.

[Digitalosophy]

Yea I feel much better after letting it all out. I guess i'll never understand it, nor will I try to.

But I will bypass all the drama and move on, I won't give her the satisfaction of letting this bother me any further.

Going out with a few buds tonight, everyone has off tomorrow. At least I won't think about it tonight.

Fester, I'll drink a few just for you pal. ;)

[grimdeath]

Another thing i suggest you do no matter how g@y it may sound but go shopping and buy some new clothes, get a new hairdo or go to the gym and workout. Girls do this every time they break up with someone else but almost no one knows why, its because they want to look way better than the chick that youll get with after they break up with you, and it boost their confidence and thier self esteem.

Trust me this really works its helped me and besides when you go out the posibilities are endless if your looking good ;)

[Digitalosophy]

haha, man the gym is my happy place, has been for a while now. I can release all my anger without hurting someone or myself :lol:

I totally agree with you :thumb:

[MTsoul]

Another thing i suggest you do no matter how g@y it may
sound but go shopping and buy some new clothes, get a new hairdo or go to the gym and workout. Girls do this every time they break up with someone else but almost no one knows why, its because they want to look way better than the chick that youll get with after they break up with you, and it boost their confidence and thier self esteem.

Trust me this really works its helped me and besides when you go out the posibilities are endless if your looking good ;)
I'm looking at your avatar.. :cross-eye

Sorry to hear that Digital. You know what they say - the more losses, the more experience.

Good luck :)

[Phat7]

Digi, I think the answer to your question, why she would do it is in your own post - you said she's 28 and you're 23. She was 5 years more experienced in lying than you :P

Well, you heard all the advices here, nothing better to say except... I don't agree with the thing that it's more fun with older women. It's all this crap about being cool if you have an older girlfriend. With older women you have to act older, do things older women like and stuff. I'm 23 and I want to act like 23. Of course it's fun (and I mean fun :sure: ) to spend time with older women, I had a 27-year-old gfriend when i was 18 :P but that lasted only couple months, and we both knew that this is only for fun. So I would say a 20-year-old girl has a better chance of having a serious long-lasting relationship with me than a 28-year-old.

Now to somewhat guess an answer to your past problem (it is in the past, isn't it ;) ), i think she probably wasn't as serious about the relationship as you were. That's why it was easy for her to get over it and go for another guy. Just my $0.02.

[tommythewolfboy]

haha, man the gym is my happy place, has been for a while now. I can release all my anger without hurting someone or myself

Digital - same thing happened to me a few years back ... HURT like hell ... like a heavy stone in my heart ... but you really do get over it in time :¬) To take my mind off it all i'd run about 10-15K every day ... haha, I might have been p*****d off but I sure was fit ... and that sure helped with the ladies ;-)

"Rolling in the muck is not the best way of getting clean" (Aldous Huxley) ... so go out, forget about this girl no matter how much she once meant to you and have a great night with your friends.

t

[zacus]

"Rolling in the muck is not the best way of getting clean" (Aldous Huxley)

man, great quote,

yeah sorry to hear about this digi, but, what can i say, look above..

[Digitalosophy]

Not to beat this to death or anything....

I feel so wonderful you guys have no idea. She just called me crying saying how much she loves me and that no man will replace me.

I told her she is an attention whore, and would cling on to anything that smiled at her. I also brought up many things from when we were together, which made her feel even stupider.

She also admitted to me, that she wants to get married and have kids just like her 2 sisters thus the reason for this "new" guy.

I simply laughed and said I feel bad for him and you, have a nice life.. 1

I do really feel bad about this whole thing, I didn't want bridges to be burned but she's old enough to know not to f with Digitalosophy.

What's funny is if she came back today, I'd have to tell her to take along walk on a short pier.

I miss her, but oh well, I miss a lot of people, just another one to add to the list.

*Digital is now cool, without any emotions*
Thanks to all who have supported, this was and is a tough time, but I'm going to be just fine without her ;)

[mjULTRA]

she's old enough to know not to f with Digitalosophy.

haha sweet... great to hear!!

[Digitalosophy]

:lol:

[fester8542]

Awesome man :thumb:

Way to deal with it. Thats sick that she will take any dude to impregnate her and toss her a ring to rival her sisters.

Your better than that bro.

[berkoWitZ]

:lol:

*saving pic....*

[Digitalosophy]

omg that picture is priceless :lol:

[Digitalosophy]

Well we've been talking once in a while since this whole thing went down. She's still seeing this douche, and I'm seeing some chick myself(I really don't like her much, but she's hot lol).

Today we spoke for about 2 hours. She asked me if i was seeing anyone, and of course I couldn't wait to tell her :lol:

Man did she get mad, I told her she has no right to say anything. She knows it, but it pissed her right off, which is wonderful :)

So were going out tonight for a drink. I think i'm playing with fuego at the moment, but I really do want to get back with her. I'm just not pushing it because I want the feeling to be mutual, not one sided.

So I dunno, hopefully tonight goes well :)

[lunatic]

Good luck with that Digital! I hope she comes around! :thumb:

[T-O]

Yeah good for u Digitalosophy! No Don't ever go back to that girl..

But you can't leave her hangin' I guess if she's sorry you can forgive her.

But don't go back into a relation with her.

[Digitalosophy]

Yeah good for u Digitalosophy! No Don't ever go back to that girl..

But you can't leave her hangin' I guess if she's sorry you can forgive her.

But don't go back into a relation with her.


Think you misunderstood. I'm going out with her tonight(my ex) :)

And to be honest i so do what to be back with her ;)

Thanks Luni, you became my personal love doctor lol, and i dont mean that in a perverted way :beer:

[lunatic]

:lol: don't give the boys on this forum any wrong ideas digital . . . ;)

[Jasninder]

....i kno her since 6, best friends all our lifes..going out for last 10-12 yrs now...she went to uk 6 yrs ago..her family migrated..still were/am togather..infact grew stronger then ever...meet every 6 months, text everyday n call after couple of days..now that distance between us is gona get closer as i m planning to be uk.. one or two months max but since few months things r going so crazy tht i feel like its already 80% finished between us...it takes 2 to tango...its painful beyond any explaination coz if it gets over we ll not even see eachother ever agn..cant expect to go back where we started 18 yrs ago...

we both are being heartless...so i cant say that women are heartless, yes they hav better control over it and as lunatic said it varies person to person.

i dont share much of my life here as i dont hav any friends and certainly dont start a thread either ..way toomuch going inside me but i dont let it affect how i am generally, pray for me? / us? :(



and she left, another guy...lost feelings...angry, dont know what...
she just left :( I was planning to surprise her by calling from uk on 19th feb (her bday) i will be in uk by then.

broken so bad it might take a life time getting back on my feet again.

wish her all the success, happiness & a great life.

sorry for bringing up ur thread back on again D

[Jasninder]

ah i think i read it all upside down ..soz

i am glad things worked out for you D
word of advice...dont go too deep into it, look at my example above.

[Digitalosophy]

what a night, this girl will be my wife one day :)

[ditt0]

People make mistakes. We all do. What i learned along time is that it really takes two to make it work. If your heart and mind are open, you'll see the solution right away. I mean, everytime you have to put yourself in the partner's shoes and wonder what might have bothered him/her too. Or , if he/she did something that hurt you, what was the reason for that.If both of you are comitted a straight talk will solve things.And forgiving and forgetting is part of all this too.I guess that's why they call it love, huh?:)
Some years ago I had a really bad experience, a few weeks before getting married i caught the boy i was about to marry in bed with someother girl.I was naive back then, i thought love is something that comes all over sudden and stays there no matter what and ,my oh my, the shock was terrible. It took me quite some time to understand that love needs to be taken care of every single day and, to tell you the truth, i think i learnt that from the one i'm in love with. It's almost 2 years since we've been together and though we're far apart most of the time, we're closer than most people i've seen.
So, if you find it in your heart to forgive and forget, do so. Don't let your ego spoil anything. Just make sure she feels the same way.

[Digitalosophy]

Thanks for the advise ditto and sorry to hear about your past, and you too Jas...

At this point, I'm doing everything I can to be that perfect boyfriend.

[Jasninder]

Digit, be urself and i am pretty sure ur a perfect bf ;)
good advice ditt0bx, too good tht i am gona copy paste it and email it to my gf =) thanks


congrats on 5K posts, guess this number brot you good luck or was it 4999 :P

[lunatic]

what a night, this girl will be my wife one day :)

my oh my . . . :love: ^ 1000000000

[rere420]

Well we've been talking once in a while since this whole thing went down. She's still seeing this douche, and I'm seeing some chick myself(I really don't like her much, but she's hot lol).

Today we spoke for about 2 hours. She asked me if i was seeing anyone, and of course I couldn't wait to tell her :lol:

Man did she get mad, I told her she has no right to say anything. She knows it, but it pissed her right off, which is wonderful :)

So were going out tonight for a drink. I think i'm playing with fuego at the moment, but I really do want to get back with her. I'm just not pushing it because I want the feeling to be mutual, not one sided.

So I dunno, hopefully tonight goes well :)


Drinks are fun..have fun!!

[ditt0]

Digit, be urself and i am pretty sure ur a perfect bf ;)
good advice ditt0bx, too good tht i am gona copy paste it and email it to my gf =) thanks

Lol Jasninder, I hope it helps:)

[Jasninder]

old post i edited, those who'v read already know



....i kno her since 6, best friends all our lifes..going out for last 10-12 yrs now...she went to uk 6 yrs ago..her family migrated..still were/am togather..infact grew stronger then ever...meet every 6 months, text everyday n call after couple of days..now that distance between us is gona get closer as i m planning to be uk.. one or two months max but since few months things r going so crazy tht i feel like its already 80% finished between us...it takes 2 to tango...its painful beyond any explaination coz if it gets over we ll not even see eachother ever agn..cant expect to go back where we started 18 yrs ago...



and she left yesterday, another guy...lost feelings...angry, dont know what...
she just left :( I was planning to surprise her by calling from uk on 19th feb (her bday) i will be in uk by then.

broken so bad it might take a life time getting back on my feet again.

wish her all the success, happiness & a great life.

and sorry for bringing up ur thread back on again D

[fester8542]

Awwww that just plain sucks Jas. :(
Go out and spend some time with your buddies. Sitting home will only make you dwell bro. Trust me.

[Jasninder]

ur right fester, i'v been thinkng about that all day long and end of the day i realize its just not me to get hurt and sit at home cry over it, maybe whatever happened was for good, it hurts but i cant let it ruin me, fine i love her and may never stop..who knows..tht aint ruining me.If she can get over n go on about her life, i can too..i will do so too..wish things were different though..but life always dont go according to the plan, right?

I am cool bro, already digging up old threads n getting back on spamming :P
i wish she'd come back and maybe i ll get some joy in dumping her:P heheh

it hurts more thn anything else ever will...i have set her free in hope to see her come back with the belief that i will change all wrongs to rights.

[[uber]]

jas.. you told me to do something when i was down.. just a thought.. but i know how you feel....

[Jasninder]

i know nathen, dont worry bout me...u know i am a brave kid :)

[lunatic]

:( Sorry to hear about it Jas - I hope you feel better soon!

:hr:

[Jasninder]

yea maybe in 5-10 years.. :P
thanks luni, as long as i have friends like u guys..i should be ok :)