a wierd dubble life.

[T-O]

Hey guyz,

I've had some wierd connect with this girl. On MSN where really not talking never although she's online nearly 24/7. But in real life where getting alone so well. I mean she's my girlfriend. :P So But I know she has this wierd dubble life on the internet. She's talking to guyz she doesn't even know and writing stuff on forums. I don't even wanna know. (actually I do) But Not with me but with other guyz. And when she leaves her computer It's back to me. All the time.. But It's scary how different she is behind her computer. Maybe she wants atention or maybe she's looking for someone else. Or maybe it's a way to exspress those hidden feelings. But the main point is that it is driving me crazy! Not. :pir: ARG i'm a pirate crazy.. but. :( uh, I'm depressed crazy.

Cheers Theo.

advice would be welcome.

[eilsoe]

I had a girl like that once... she dumped me for one of her online dudes... :-/

[T-O]

I had a girl like that once... she dumped me for one of her online dudes... :-/

EEK! That's freak'n me out man! You guyz should help me not state the problems :(

[hoodz]

But the main point is that it is driving me crazy
i know the feeling dude my girl is doin same thing on msn, talkin to strangers and all that but i dont think she's is saying very weird stuff but i just think she wants attention or something but heck im talkin to strangers right now so maybe we should ask ourself why we are doing this :P

[T-O]

i know the feeling dude my girl is doin same thing on msn, talkin to strangers and all that but i dont think she's is saying very weird stuff but i just think she wants attention or something but heck im talkin to strangers right now so maybe we should ask ourself why we are doing this :P

Your not a stranger.. Your part of the huge K-family

[eilsoe]

I didn't say it's gonna happen to YOU :P

Ask her what the hell she thinks she's doing... :) tell her it makes you feel bad... tell her SOMEthing...


(again, I did that to the girl from above.. she completely ignored me..)

[hoodz]

EEK! That's freak'n me out man! You guyz should help me not state the problems

always be one step ahead, so that u always know what is going on....

i dont mean by this that u should spy on her but just know whats she is doing by how she's acting, if she acts very weird u know something is goin on and then u should asks questions

[RabBell]

it's probably just an attention thing, whats the harm if she's talking to guys or even flirting with them online. Unless she plans to meet any of these guys you've got nothing to worry about.

If you're still worried about it, talk to her :love:

[hoodz]

Your part of the huge K-family
but i dont really know u guys though, maybe u are some psycho kille or something or just a normal dude :P

[T-O]

i dont mean by this that u should spy on her but just know whats she is doing by how she's acting, if she acts very weird u know something is goin on and then u should asks questions


Installing trojan horse :P insane Idea.. Just might work.. :P


Nah, not going to do that. I still believe in trust.

[hoodz]

Unless she plans to meet any of these guys you've got nothing to worry about.


if she plans to meet someone and u know it tell her u gonna meet that person first and are gonna beat the crap out of him...i would do that

[hoodz]

how long u 2 together now?

[T-O]

it's probably just an attention thing, whats the harm if she's talking to guys or even flirting with them online. Unless she plans to meet any of these guys you've got nothing to worry about.

If you're still worried about it, talk to her :love:

Talking to her She'll be like WTF! gimmie some space *then we brake up*



how long u 2 together now?

Nearly 5 months.


if she plans to meet someone and u know it tell her u gonna meet that person first and are gonna beat the crap out of him...i would do that

Good idea.. But she'll never tell me that.

[hoodz]

Talking to her She'll be like WTF! gimmie some space *then we brake up*

WTF??? so whats special about ur relationship with her? the NOT talkin part? :P

[hoodz]

Good idea.. But she'll never tell me that.
and thats called *trust*?

[RabBell]

raises an intresting question

how do you know she's not met any of these guys already :h:

[hoodz]

raises an intresting question

how do you know she's not met any of these guys already :h:u should *talk* to ur girlfriend about it..and if she talks bout gimme some space just b*tchslap sense into her

[RabBell]

yeah this is getting out of hand...first she's talking to guys on the net, your over reaction caused her to meet these guys, when you found out you went nuts and b***h slapped her around the room... :jail: ;)

seriously thought just cause she's talking to guys on the net you think she's up to something. We have girls in this forum, some of whom you've probably talked to. Do you wanna meet them, do they wanna meet you? Deep down you know you're over reacting

by the way if you think you can't talk to your girlfriend or she'll dump you, you have bigger problems in your relationship than her being on the net

[Celeste Y]

all of this fuss over a 5 month relationship?
Geez, I have being going out with my man for almost 2 years and he has no problem with me talking on the net.
At 5 months you guys should still be having fun and doing other things. Its only at 6 months that you should have your first fight over something stupid.

[T-O]

edit:

Come on.. :( not cool AT ALL....

i'm going to talk about it with her.

[hoodz]

edit:

Come on.. :( not cool AT ALL....

i'm going to talk about it with her.
and she better not say that gimme space thingy :@

[T-O]

and she better not say that gimme space thingy :@

i don't know how to handle this.. I mean

Hey, How are you? oh By the way why are you talking to guyz you don't even know on MSN?

[hoodz]

i don't know how to handle this.. I mean

Hey, How are you? oh By the way why are you talking to guyz you don't even know on MSN?
just say:

i think we need to talk, and then tell u dont feel good about that she is talking to strangers all day, ask her why she talks to them all day

[Celeste Y]

dont ask why. She wont know what to say and she will go into defense mode. Start attacking you about being noisy and "gimme space".
Either way, she will still do it behind your back.

[hoodz]

dont ask why. She wont know what to say and she will go into defense mode. Start attacking you about being noisy and "gimme space".
Either way, she will still do it behind your back.
so whats T-O supposed to do then? fight fire with fire and do the same?
telling his girl: oh ive met some great girls on msn today man we talked all day and all night :P

[Celeste Y]

I just saying dont ask her why, because your not going to like the answer.
And the truth is, she will probably do it behind your back, as she is not going to understand what the big deal is. Think of it like this....your girlfriend has a problem with you watching p0rn, she tells you she finds it disgusting and doesn't want you to watch that ever again. How many men do you think will actually say ok and stop? Would you? or would you stay ok and just watch it in the dead of the night when every one is sleeping?

[hoodz]

yea but this is way different, this is not about watching p0rn but about T-O's girl maybe havin weird relationships online, what would u do celeste when u think ur man is havin an affaire? u wouldnt just ignore it right?

[eilsoe]

well, the chance of him ever meeting up with a p*rn star is very slim :P


no offense TO :P

[Celeste Y]

you are right, I wouldn't just ignore, but I also wouldn't start up a fight that might be about nothing. Maybe she likes the idea of flirting with guys on line or gets a kick out of it. Who knows? The point is, that if it is nothing and he goes in there like it is something, she is still going to do it, as she doesn't know what the big deal is. Or worse, she will think that TO is a big jealous jerk (which I am sure you are not TO).

I would say, find out first if this is an actually serious thing or not. Go into the conversation casualy, not "honey we have to talk", more like "so...who did you speak to online?". Chances are it isn't something big and the guys she is talking to are far away, in which case there is no point having an argument.

oh, and TO, as a woman I can tell you that if you do have an argument she will prob say something like "well you go to forums dont you?" and turn the whole situation onto you. First woman trick in the book. So you better think of an answer before even going any where near the situation.

[hoodz]

turn the whole situation onto you
lol yeah girls do that..always when my girlfriend does something bad and we talk about, then in the end im the bad guy and i did everything wrong :P

[eilsoe]

Funny, celeste, you said after what, 6 months (?), you said you should've had at least one fight? :P

I've been with my girl 2,5+ years now, and we've never had ONE fight.. just minor disagreements :) we usually talk it out before it gets out of hand :)

[T-O]

I really feel it's not working out....


Second question?
how to brake up with a girl. Maybe I should do it via MSN.

[hoodz]

I really feel it's not working out....


Second question?
how to brake up with a girl. Maybe I should do it via MSN.
WOW why brake up all of a sudden? first find out what she doing the u know if it feels good or not...and never brake up over msn/phone or something like that

[Jasninder]

is this just an online thingy for u too? usually people act very different in chatrooms and with people they meet online, very different or should i say very themselves..coz thats where they reveal their trueself without much of a risk, sply people who are not themselves and are playing someone else in their real life?

hey am i confusing u guys? lol :P

ok so if this just an online relationship, dont bother n go deep into it...no use spying onto her coz tht is not whats gona stop her to go out with other guys, if she means something to u more then an online chitchat, talk to her n work it all out...no use having things unclear and unsaid and getting involved..these days more brain in involved then heart when it comes to love:P

best of luck =)

[Jasninder]

oh

just read the other posts...

say" we need to talk coz theres something bothering me, its also serious as i feel its not working out between us so either lets get it sorted out or call it off, maybe its best for us, specially me as i am not able to concentrate on anything and its kinda pausing my life, hope u understand the urgency"

wonder if that was an email or a msg :-s
well works both way:P

[T-O]

is this just an online thingy for u too? usually people act very different in chatrooms and with people they meet online, very different or should i say very themselves..coz thats where they reveal their trueself without much of a risk, sply people who are not themselves and are playing someone else in their real life?

hey am i confusing u guys? lol :P

ok so if this just an online relationship, dont bother n go deep into it...no use spying onto her coz tht is not whats gona stop her to go out with other guys, if she means something to u more then an online chitchat, talk to her n work it all out...no use having things unclear and unsaid and getting involved..these days more brain in involved then heart when it comes to love:P

best of luck =)
Ah! someone with advice that i can take. :P hope it works out and all with me and her because she is special to me. But It's driving me insane.

[Celeste Y]

I presume you take the word "fight" as yelling at each other, throwing objects across the room, swearing, calling each other names....ect.
If you do take it as that, then I have never had a fight with my boyfriend either. I am talking about serious conversations where one of you is angry/upset about something the other one did. Call it disagreements if you like. I prefer to keep the disagreement word for things like choosing which channel on T.V to watch or who makes the best coffee.
And as for the 6 months thing.... your first "disgreement" should happen then. For the first 6 months you should be getting to know each other and when you think that her little habits are cute, after 6 months is when you get to know the side that might not be so pleasant, and when her habits become not so cute. If you make it past that stage, then you are set......well, till the big One Year anyway. Then there is the big Two year, and Three Year, all the way up to when he proposes, then there is the Big Wedding. And then you get to go back to the beginning again! 6 months, one year anniversay, 2 year..........so on

[hoodz]

Celeste u give relation therapy to people? :P

[T-O]

I presume you take the word "fight" as yelling at each other, throwing objects across the room, swearing, calling each other names....ect.
If you do take it as that, then I have never had a fight with my boyfriend either. I am talking about serious conversations where one of you is angry/upset about something the other one did. Call it disagreements if you like. I prefer to keep the disagreement word for things like choosing which channel on T.V to watch or who makes the best coffee.
And as for the 6 months thing.... your first "disgreement" should happen then. For the first 6 months you should be getting to know each other and when you think that her little habits are cute, after 6 months is when you get to know the side that might not be so pleasant, and when her habits become not so cute. If you make it past that stage, then you are set......well, till the big One Year anyway. Then there is the big Two year, and Three Year, all the way up to when he proposes, then there is the Big Wedding. And then you get to go back to the beginning again! 6 months, one year anniversay, 2 year..........so on

i have know her.. nearly 4 years now.. It's only the last 5 months that we have actually been dating, kissing and other stuff.. I know her. I know that she'll always come to alte for everything. I know She'll see me and go crazy with love. :P but... it's the other side.. :P scaring to hell out of me.

[hoodz]

i have know her.. nearly 4 years now.. It's only the last 5 months that we have actually been dating, kissing and other stuff.. I know her. I know that she'll always come to alte for everything. I know She'll see me and go crazy with love. :P but... it's the other side.. :P scaring to hell out of me.
THE DARKSIDE IS STRONG BUT YOU MUST RESIST!!!

as long u 2 are happy and nobody is dating other people they know from internet things are alright :P

[T-O]

THE DARKSIDE IS STRONG BUT YOU MUST RESIST!!!

as long u 2 are happy and nobody is dating other people they know from internet things are alright :P

true, But I'm going to see her again today.. sometime :P I don't she should of been here alreaddy :P Have to do +1 hour..

[hoodz]

true, But I'm going to see her again today.. sometime :P I don't she should of been here alreaddy :P Have to do +1 hour..
have fun with her

[McGuffin]

If you're going to break up with her, do it in person, not over MSN. Hiding behind a monitor does nothing but hurt her even more. I'm a firm believer in everything that is nearly personal should be done in person, not through text.

[GreenLantern]

Hey, I have MSN. What is her email address? If she's going to be free, maybe I can get her on the rebound.

:beam:

[mjULTRA]

Tell her that you are uncomforable with her chatting on the internet with other dudes, and that you feel that there is no trust in this relationship, and it therefore must end.

If she really does care about you, and it is all just innocent, then she will not like this idea, and will attempt a compromise, but honestly, it sounds like she's scouting...

you'll hafta let her go. Trying to beg and plead will only be pathetic, and will not score you points with her. Be a man, tell her to kick rocks, and watch for her reaction. It should be clear at that point what you need to do...

[Celeste Y]

Celeste u give relation therapy to people?
am I not allowed too?
I always worry about people who are friends first then go into a relationship. It's already hard enough getting to know someone, without that extra pressure of switching the light from friendship to relationship. Then there is the pressure that this has to work out, because you dont want to ruin the friendship.
I really dont think this is worth breaking up over, but if you feel that you must, then you must. I wish you the best of luck. Especially if you are going to try and break up with her in person. Aarrgg, that's the worst!
Tell us what happens, ok?

[DariusMonsef]

TO... Dude, give me her MSN name or a forum she posts on... I'll find out what she talks about to online guys... I'm serious here.

[hoodz]

am I not allowed too?
I always worry about people who are friends first then go into a relationship. It's already hard enough getting to know someone, without that extra pressure of switching the light from friendship to relationship. Then there is the pressure that this has to work out, because you dont want to ruin the friendship.
I really dont think this is worth breaking up over, but if you feel that you must, then you must. I wish you the best of luck. Especially if you are going to try and break up with her in person. Aarrgg, that's the worst!
Tell us what happens, ok?
i didnt say ur allowed to do that Celeste, i think its great that u do this stuff :)

[T-O]

am I not allowed too?
I always worry about people who are friends first then go into a relationship. It's already hard enough getting to know someone, without that extra pressure of switching the light from friendship to relationship. Then there is the pressure that this has to work out, because you dont want to ruin the friendship.
I really dont think this is worth breaking up over, but if you feel that you must, then you must. I wish you the best of luck. Especially if you are going to try and break up with her in person. Aarrgg, that's the worst!
Tell us what happens, ok?


okay, :)
http://www.kirupaforum.com/forums/showthread.php?t=73751
let's lock this thread..

[hoodz]

okay, :)
http://www.kirupaforum.com/forums/showthread.php?t=73751
let's lock this thread..
lock it admins :P

[Celeste Y]

i didnt say ur allowed to do that Celeste, i think its great that u do this stuff


Some one has to look out for you guys;)

[hoodz]

Some one has to look out for you guys;)
from now on ur the Kirupa family mom who looks out for us :P

[Celeste Y]

;P :lol:

[T-O]

from now on ur the Kirupa family mom who looks out for us :P
Whahahahah ROLF.. :P

[mjULTRA]

TO... Dude, give me her MSN name or a forum she posts on... I'll find out what she talks about to online guys... I'm serious here.
This is a great idea! Let 'ole Ethan mack a bit to your chick, and find out whether hew online habits are innocent or not...